Showing posts with label anxiety. Show all posts
Showing posts with label anxiety. Show all posts

Sunday, 26 April 2015

The utterly unique experience of working with Matthew has permeated every part of my life. The changes for the better are profound, long lasting and beyond anything that I could have imagined.

April 2015

I had suffered from a phobia of flying for 15years of my adult life but in the middle of a recent 10 hour flight having done a four and a half hour flight the day before I was reminded of just what an impact that Matthew Meinck has had on my life. Because after 15 years my phobias had taken over my life until I started to work with Matthew to heal my traumas.
During that flight not only did I realise that I was enjoying the experience but I had also learnt to care for my health and every other aspect of my life in order to make that journey possible.
The utterly unique experience of working with Matthew has permeated every part of my life. The changes for the better are profound, long lasting and beyond anything that I could have imagined.

post submitted by Alison

Saturday, 12 April 2014

Thanks to Matthew (Meinck) my time and my home is now my own

I live in a feeling of being nothing therefore having nothing to offer.
I did want to try to express the recent feeling deep in me of knowing I no longer make myself available to be used day and night.

'Being switched off and numb since my first abuse at 6 months, it took Matthew (Meinck) 10 years of constant hard work and support to allow me to finally start to thaw.
And I still need his continuing interaction to help me see when I'm trapped in my victims thinking.
I can't begin to describe to you the feeling of not being an unpaid whore in my own home anymore, where whenever I was at home and I never knew when and whom was going to turn up and demand what. The constant anxiety and pressure I lived under in my own home as well as the panic if I wanted to do something for myself or away from the house. The persistent feeling of always having to be prepared and ready was terrifying.
Thanks to Matthew (Meinck) my time and my home is now my own.
The feelings of anxiety and panic are still there as habit but with far less intensity and frequency.
The knowing and the relief deep within me that the action doesn't happen anymore is worth more than I can express.....'


post submitted by Tina

Friday, 11 April 2014

There is nothing that I felt through that process that Matthew (Meinck) didn’t feel along with me


What is it like to live a life of fear? To feel you have to try to control everything and everyone in your life.
The emotional psychological physical and sexual abuse I suffered as a child led me try to (in a child’s way you try) to control my world. Trying not to step on cracks in the ground or holding my breath in between them was the first thing I recognised as the start of the control. My world was completely out of control my father's rage would flare up at any moment give whatever he believed at the time to be a just reason and as a child I thought I was the reason.
As an adult I lived my life still holding my breath and it wasn't until this week I have realised to what extent that was happening. 
I have only been able to realise this because it is finally breaking down.
To be able to live my life free of this is something I don’t feel words could ever do justice to.
And when I say free I mean in every sense of the word. A freedom from fear a freedom from self-disgust a freedom from feeling as survivors of sexual abuse do that I had to pay a price a penance because after all it was all my fault right. 
In this harsh and violent world I found a way to heal, someone to guide me someone brave enough to take that ride with me. There is nothing that I felt through that process that Matthew (Meinck) didn’t feel along with me he laid his health on the line simply because he could see the need I had and that he could heal that need. The things I have read in the media contrary to this disgust me and the only thing that really concerns me in life now is that the utterly unique way that Matthew (Meinck) has of encouraging healing in a person will continue to be miss represented and will be lost to the people who need it most. 
He has nurtured my health and now I am in position to nurture his and that is what I intend to do.

post submitted by Anonymous

Thursday, 19 September 2013

No euphoria just relief and a respect for what it took from both Matthew and myself to get to this point and keep going.

21st Jan 2013

Having regular deep tissue massages with Matthew and attending his meditation retreats have changed my life.

It is difficult to express the subtle but profound changes that take place working with him but I wanted to put pen to paper to give it a go because I realized today that the peace that I am able to feel  now is not only in stark contrast to the way I have lived my life for the last 40 years but a thing I often thought wasn’t possible .

One of the benefits of the retreat environment is that it gives you time to really slow down and when you feel a high level of anxiety in your body on a daily basis at first this seems a stupid if not terrifying thing to do because obviously you feel it more. It has taken some doing but because of the slowing down I can live my life now with the freedom to have anxiety there or bliss and everything in between. The problem was never that I had the anxiety or other difficult feelings, it was that I didn’t want to feel them.

I only realized it when a comment Matthew made on a recent retreat that struck a cord with me as they often do and it was something to the effect of “that it is not that parts of what we feel that are bad it is weather or not it is all of you” Which I noticed is how I am able to live now. To live with all that I am and feel even if I don’t always like it I can accept it.

My only goal along the way was to be able to live with myself. It just took hard work and patience from both of us for me to stay with myself long enough to accept how I was/am. Today I realized I can.

This may sound a trivial thing to some but to people who have lived with the anxiety, confusion, depression and often terror on a daily basis even after all the medications and therapies I could find to try to help, it is like being let out of a straight jacket.
There is no euphoria just relief and a respect for what it took from both Matthew and myself to get to this point and keep going.

I knew when I first met Matthew that I was meeting someone unlike anyone I’d met before, someone that was real and whole. This powerful mix frightened me because I had a sense straight away that the truth in him had already connected with the damage in me and would be able to heal it but also what it was going to take on my part to get past my terror. I had no idea that it would take his personal sacrifice as well, I can only be grateful that he continued the journey with me.

Matthew’s approach to healing is constantly evolving and as I watch others like myself start the process with him I am excited to watch them start new lives just like I did.

What I have described is just one positive effect that Matthew has had on my life this man is truly a profound healer and I hope that for as long as he wants to continue that there are other people who are eager to receive what he has to offer.

He helped me to discover the truth about myself and the world around me.

post submitted by Alison

Thursday, 10 May 2012

Matthew Meinck - Helping me live not just exist


Testimonial May 2010
"In 1997 my partner of 11 years passed away from cancer, then three months later one of my sisters passed away from cancer as well. I was in a real mess, but trying to keep myself together, I kept working and shifted in with two sisters.
I was also coping with a chronic illness of which I was diagnosed with endometriosis when I was about 27 years old, but I feel I’ve had this condition right from the start of menstruating, but progressively got worse as the years went by.
I met my partner when I was 24 years old, it was an abusive relationship, but I convinced myself it wasn’t. My health got worse and worse, I became more withdrawn, more so than I was before I met him.
The pain, bleeding and vomiting at period time became so severe I was admitted to hospital for an operation. I was also told I had developed fibroids in my uterus.
I was so stressed trying to recoup from the operation and the demand to go back to work, as I was the main income earner, I kept working for another year, but emotionally and with this chronic condition I just couldn’t go on anymore. Gave up work for six months, saw a GP who said I was suffering from anxiety attacks, severe stress and depression.
He put me on anti-depressants which I took for a couple of weeks, but they seemed to make me feel numb and at the same time out of control. I stopped taking them. I felt no support or care from my partner, he was even more distant than ever.
Him not working put an enormous strain on our finances, so I went back to work. A year later he was diagnosed with cancer and passed away at the end of 1997, my sister died 3 months later.
About 7-8months later I saw an advert in the Nova newspaper for a retreat in the Perth Hills. I had never done one before, had not met Matthew, I just booked to go for 8 days. I felt like I needed to go somewhere quiet to give myself a break. 
From that first retreat, there was one thing Matthew had said that really stuck with me. He said give 100% to the meditation process and not to believe everything he said but to question everything for ourselves.
It was a very simple act of sitting still and feeling all the senses of the body being in contact with exactly how I was actually feeling. This for me was extremely challenging, as the pain in certain areas of my body became unbearable but over the period of the retreat the pain shifted and changed. Matthew helped me stay with what was coming up for me. I was so scared to go back to my life. It had a profound affect on me, soon after I shifted into a place on my own, where I had not lived on my own before. That was a big step and I felt good about it. As I have done retreats over the past 10 years, I’ve started to face up to how scared I was, the turmoil and confusion, but also a quiet sense of myself I so desperately needed.
The whole process of retreats and the nourishing delicious food Kate served, has helped me pay more attention to what I was putting into my body and still do. The massages I received from Matthew have been beneficial in correcting a twisted pelvis, lower back pain and moving through a multitude of emotional blocks.
About 4-5 years ago I began to have memories of sexual abuse from the time I was about 3 years old. They started surfacing while sitting on retreat. Some were very clear visually, some sketchy but with strong distressing feelings and sensations in my body. The abuse has carried through into adulthood. The way I felt about myself, the physical symptoms I had, thoughts of wanting to give up and die. I felt like a big chunk of me was locked away and buried.
I mean this in all sincerity, that if it wasn’t for Matthew’s help and going on retreats I might not have made it through. I’m not only facing up to what has been done to me as a child and adult, but also to the behaviours in me that are still hurting myself and others as well.
Matthew is a unique individual, whose approach is real, direct and with a depth of clarity and understanding I have not encountered before!
Thank you Matthew for helping me live not just exist. You have had a profound impact on my life. Thanks for everything!"
Post submitted by Maree Shaw


excerpt from letter  - some of the letters on this blog were originally used for another purpose, with the individual authors permission references irrelevant to this blog have been removed and in some cases the posts made anonymous, what remains is the guts of their experience of Matthew Meinck. 

Thursday, 12 April 2012

Matthew Meinck - Beyond What Mainstream Medicine Could Do

10th Dec 2011



"For 12 years I suffered severe panic attacks, depression, extreme low self-esteem and many and varied recurring health issues. Some include eczema, throat/chest infections, tonsillitis, chronic urinary tract infection, carpal tunnel syndrome and extreme muscle tension. 


This of course made it hard to hold down a job. I tried several qualified counsellors and psychologists for 8 years and anti depressants of several kinds and some tranquillisers administered to me by my parents.
But the terror continued.
None of the dozens of doctors I saw could help me.


Then I made a phone call to Matthew Meinck.
After the second phone call (2000) I had with him he recommended that I stop trying to use the control techniques I had been taught and just feel the terror that was in my body I was able to just let it be there. By being able to do that I was free. I have not had an anxiety attack since.


Shortly afterwards I stopped all medications for depression and anxiety and about a year after that I was totally medication free. In the 3 years prior to meeting Matthew I was visiting the doctor on average 34 times a year and almost every visit ended with a prescription.


It has been a long and difficult journey but today I enjoy good health without any medication and also run my own small business.
My experiences and many others that I have seen with Matthew Meinck has taken us beyond what mainstream medicine could do."


post submitted by Alison


excerpt from letter  - some of the letters on this blog were originally used for another purpose, with the individual authors permission references irrelevant to this blog have been removed and in some cases the posts made anonymous, what remains is the guts of their experience of Matthew Meinck.